Rape culture: What needs to change?

Their is a recent report in the news stating that a NFL player was confronted by cops after being stopped for speeding. The report states that during the confrontation the player insisted that he would get out of jail to find the cop’s wife and intend to have sex with her. Allegedly his comments were “I’m going to f–k your wife and n– in her eye”

I first want to state that I am not 100% certain that he said this to the cop because I was obviously not there during the incident. Of course if this is true, I think it was extremely disrespectful and an act of ignorance to insist that he would commit such an act. One of the things that bothers me most about this is the plethora of posts online joking about his alleged statement along with individuals laughing about his comments. When this type of language is used and we see comments such as “well what did she look like”, “that cop must have been a little sensitive”, and of course the constant laughing emojis. Many take this type of language as a joke but this language along with the insensitivity to it enforces rape culture within our society.

These comments are made so casually that many have become desensitized to it. We hear it in our music, movies, and many of us hear it in the workplace on a constant basis. A lawsuit was recently placed on a Chicago Ford assembly plant due to years of unreported sexual harassment incidents against many of the female employees. Many of these women reported that coworkers would often advise them to “let it go” and not to say anything about or it would get worse. These are two different situations obviously, but the same mentality is evident. This behavior is extremely harmful to men and women alike, the same type of misogyny and objectification of women that is displayed in pornographic movies has crept into our society. One thing we need is for more men to speak out against this type of behavior, as men we are set out to be protectors of our women not enforcing a culture that views women as inferior or objects of sexual pleasure.

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Black lights

In darkness we stood where fear is involuntary, suppressed through sidewalks.

Where faces cannot taste trouble,only bitterness from temporary delicacies.Praise from temporary plateaus.

In Moonlight we leak defcenies we buried under paradise,consumed by its shadows.

Reducing everything to fragments

filtered through broken bodies We idol.

These things will break


These things shall be shaken that we cling to. Only eternal which for am moment seems forever out of reach will rise to stay. We can’t stay forever, souls will push through, prevail despite the common efforts of men that fall as dust.

We are made through adversity, the tearing of old layers to form new . The maker does not pull us away from fire, but rather pushes us through it weakness and insecurities are purged as nothing.

Saving self

When you create an end to the breaking point….

Everything that’s broken will eventually become healed in time.

I flashed childhood off the silhouettes in the bedroom my mother let me sleep in.

Hanging sideways off edge. Sharing space with a toddler and pregnant wife.

I cried tears inside, but grit my teeth to prevent them from pouring out into oceans from pint up bitterness.

I almost hated me, tearing to the last fabric of self confidence until nothing.
Thin air carrying every mistake past the moonlight.

Note: This was written on the spot with little to know proofreading. I honestly just had to allow these emotions to pour out of me. I hope at least one person will be inspired.